Have you discovered your identity? Have you questioned your identity? Your purpose? I have. I spent decades of my life trying to be someone I’m not. Trying to fit someone else’s idea of success. It didn’t work. I was good at it, whatever I put my hand to (there’s a Scripture about that) but that didn’t make me successful. I was a failure and I felt the weight of it every day of my life.
My characters in my stories face such an ordeal. For reasons as different as you and I, as individual as snowflakes, my characters are searching for their own soul. Sometimes unaware, sometimes tangibly aware, and raw.
Have you lived with a person you know is not who you are? I have. And so have my characters in my stories. I know you can relate, pretending to be something you’re not. Putting on a façade to please others, to make someone else happy.
But what about you? Who makes you happy? How do you make yourself happy? Because truly, if we’re not—I’m not—happy with ourselves, we’re not going to be happy with someone else, either.
That’s been my years-long journey. Discovering who I am. The journey has been torturous at times, and painful. But there aren’t any shortcuts. Shortcuts only lead to delays and complications. I know, I tried them. So did Rose. (from Clara Bess, book 2 in my unsavory heritage series) And Rose died without letting herself be happy.
Don’t let that be you. Fight for who you are. Know who you are, know yourself. I did it. My characters did it. You can do it, too.
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