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The month of November is a special time for me:
my second novel and sequel to
the second in the unsavory heritage series,
will be available 30 November on Amazon
Clara Bess wasn’t raised by her birth mother. Nor was she adopted.
“Clara Bess read, with shock and no small degree of confusion, the line on her birth certificate where her mother’s name should be. It did not read Lily Isabella Mayes.
Clara Bess was adopted.
Where, then, were the adoption papers?” (excerpted from the back-cover blurb)
Posts this month address children who, for whatever reason, are not raised or cared for by their birth parents. Clara Bess faces the journey of not only finding out who her birth mother was, but why she was raised with the family she knew.
Adoption is a process whereby a person assumes the parenting of another, usually a child, from that person’s biological or legal parent or parents, and, in so doing, permanently transfers all rights and responsibilities, along with filiation (legal relationship between parent and child) from the biological parent or parents. Unlike guardianship or other systems designed for the care of the young, adoption is intended to effect a permanent change in status and as such requires societal recognition, either through legal or religious sanction. (Wikipedia)
As I mentioned last week, I always longed to be part of a big boisterous family… Because from deep down inside my heart, that longing for the big boisterous family fed the desire to foster or adopt.
What adoption is not: temporary care for a child or children who will likely be placed back in the home with their natural parent(s.)
What adoption is: a permanent, loving and nurturing home for a child or children when all comprehensive efforts have been unsuccessful to return the child or children to their birth parent(s.)
Many of the requirements and criteria for adopting are the same as for the foster home, the objective in both scenarios to provide a stable and nurturing environment for the child or children involved. An adopted child is accepted into a family as wholly as any natural children born to the parent(s.) They are given the same love and affection, guidance and discipline as natural-born children.
While a child may be in a foster home for a day or a year, the goal is to be reunited with the birth parent. Foster parents and the birth parents work together with the social worker to achieve this goal. An adopted child, however, is permanently part of the adoptive family; once an adoption is finalized, the parental rights of the natural parents are terminated and cannot be reinstated.
Imagine my delight to learn, after slating this series of posts, that November is
“Each year, November is recognized as National Adoption Awareness Month. While all adoption-related issues are important, the particular focus of this month is the adoption of children currently in foster care.” http://national-adoption-month.adoption.com/
The website has resources and activities to raise awareness of adoption, and especially to educate family and friends of a decision to adopt.
I stumbled on an interesting article at http://www.russellmoore.com/2015/11/10/dont-protect-yourself-from-adoption/
“The [same] imperative is necessary for those considering adoption, foster care, or orphan ministry. If you want your “dream baby,” do not adopt or foster a child. Buy a cat, and make believe. If what you like is the idea of a baby who fulfills your needs and meets your expectations, a cat is the way to go. Decorate the nursery, if you’d like. Dress it up in pink and blue, and take pictures. But don’t adopt. Adopting an orphan isn’t ordering a consumer item or buying a pet. Such a mindset hurts the child, and countless other children and families who are watching your family in order to see a picture of what adoption means.”
Neither fostering nor adoption are “fun activities” to do with a child who elicits pity or sympathy. Both fostering and adoption are full-time, and sometimes long-term, commitments to the well-being of a child, and cannot be taken lightly. Is it risky? Of course it is. But no less risky than any other human interaction. Is it worth it? I’d venture to say yes. Done in the right spirit and frame of mind, every bit as worthwhile—valuable and treasured—as any other relationship and human interaction.
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“I once said I should write down all the story ideas in my head so someone could write them someday. I had no idea at the time that someone was me!
Ms. Mason has been writing since 1995, and began working in earnest on her debut novel, Tessa in 2013. Meanwhile, she cranked out a few dozen poems, and made countless notes for story ideas. Ms. Mason lived with depression for many years, and the inherent feelings of worthlessness and invisibility; she didn’t want to be who she was and struggled with her own identity for many years. Her characters face many of these same demons.
Ms. Mason has lived in the Upstate of South Carolina since 1988. She lived in Colorado for sixteen years, during which time she: went to high school, got married, had babies, got divorced and went to college. Her “babies” are now grown, two have babies of their own. She currently lives alone, with her five cats.
Ms. Mason writes Christian-worldview–in other words, there’s no salvation message, but there are plenty of characters who know the Lord and share His perspective with those who are struggling.
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